Tuesday, October 28, 2008
Victims
It is the time of year that makes me want to hibernate. As the leaves on the trees become scarce, my desire to see other people disappears as well. Already there have been several parties I was scheduled to attend that instead were left wondering what happened to me. Seems this year will be particularly bad for I have started early and am neglecting the courtesy to notify my hosts in advance. It isn't the weather that gets to me, it is the people and this year I am finding people to be especially irksome.
I am tired of the victim mentality that is so prevalent. Sick to death of listening to people complain about how someone took advantage of them. It is always another person's fault.
"I didn't know any better"
"They used me"
"So-and-so said it was okay"
"X doesn't like me. He/She must be sexist/racist/homophobic/fill-in-the-blank-with-whatever-makes-you-different"
Maybe they don't like you because you are a whiny idiot!
Good god!
Grow up. Take responsibility for yourself. Recognize that not everyone is going to like you. Educate yourself. Grow a pair (tits/balls, I don't care. Take your pick.) and stand up for yourself rather than constantly complaining to others after the fact. Stop using this crap as an excuse for your inadequacies. Admit your mistakes, do your best to fix them and move on!
You want to be lazy? Fine, be lazy, but accept that your life will never be anything other than mediocre at best and stop expecting the rest of the world to slow down and wait for you or pick up your slack.
The next person I hear whine that their mortgage company took advantage of them (News Flash: *no* company has your best interests at heart!) is getting buried in their backyard. No need to worry about losing your house, you'll be there forever! Glad I could help.
Next asshat who sobs about his investments that were worth $200K last month and are now sitting around $12,000 is getting hit in the head, repeatedly, with a briefcase full of bricks. I don't care what your financial advisor told you, I know you got the "past performance is no indicator…" speech and choose to ignore it.
Nor do I care if teens called you names. That's what they do. You did it and now it is the next generation's turn.
Your professor did not give you a bad grade because he hates women. He did it because you are stupid. Doesn't matter that you get A's in your other classes. Hell, those are the professors who are disrespecting you!
Dude, it isn't that people won't help you because you are Black; it is because you are a jerk and they don't want to be around you for a minute longer than necessary.
Guess what. Your neighbors don't dislike you because you are a lesbian. They dislike you because you are a spoiled princess who expects everyone else to take care of you. The fact that you were too spacey to put your shoes on when you left your apartment doesn't inspire them to carry your trash to the dumpster. It makes them want to slap you.
Your girlfriend didn't cheat on you because she was using you. She did it because what you are calling a girlfriend is someone you met at the bar last week and fucked a couple times. I love sex as much as the next person but it takes more than take to make a relationship and what the hell are you doing claiming a relationship with someone you have only known a week?!?
You missing the bus is not due to some giant conspiracy. Nor is the cafe running out of pumpkin chai (Gotta say though that getting the last cup of it and then secretly sipping it while you bitch about it made it taste even better!!! Yeah, I've got my own damned flaws to work on…)
Perhaps a little introspection is in order here people! A few hours spent wondering how you might be contributing to the problem. Maybe learn some new skills. Tackle a flaw or two.
I have had it with these people. Tried talking to them about it. Let them know that I felt they were going overboard. Tried to get them to visit about something positive. Something they could do to make things better. Now I am done. I have a hard enough time being optimistic during the holidays and have no desire at all to hang with people who just wish to wallow in negativity without taking the initiative to do something about it. Who just want to be victims instead of in control of their own lives.
See ya bastards in January! Then, at least for a couple weeks, you will make resolutions and pretend like things are going to be different. At least until all the champagne wears off.
I am tired of the victim mentality that is so prevalent. Sick to death of listening to people complain about how someone took advantage of them. It is always another person's fault.
"I didn't know any better"
"They used me"
"So-and-so said it was okay"
"X doesn't like me. He/She must be sexist/racist/homophobic/fill-in-the-blank-with-whatever-makes-you-different"
Maybe they don't like you because you are a whiny idiot!
Good god!
Grow up. Take responsibility for yourself. Recognize that not everyone is going to like you. Educate yourself. Grow a pair (tits/balls, I don't care. Take your pick.) and stand up for yourself rather than constantly complaining to others after the fact. Stop using this crap as an excuse for your inadequacies. Admit your mistakes, do your best to fix them and move on!
You want to be lazy? Fine, be lazy, but accept that your life will never be anything other than mediocre at best and stop expecting the rest of the world to slow down and wait for you or pick up your slack.
The next person I hear whine that their mortgage company took advantage of them (News Flash: *no* company has your best interests at heart!) is getting buried in their backyard. No need to worry about losing your house, you'll be there forever! Glad I could help.
Next asshat who sobs about his investments that were worth $200K last month and are now sitting around $12,000 is getting hit in the head, repeatedly, with a briefcase full of bricks. I don't care what your financial advisor told you, I know you got the "past performance is no indicator…" speech and choose to ignore it.
Nor do I care if teens called you names. That's what they do. You did it and now it is the next generation's turn.
Your professor did not give you a bad grade because he hates women. He did it because you are stupid. Doesn't matter that you get A's in your other classes. Hell, those are the professors who are disrespecting you!
Dude, it isn't that people won't help you because you are Black; it is because you are a jerk and they don't want to be around you for a minute longer than necessary.
Guess what. Your neighbors don't dislike you because you are a lesbian. They dislike you because you are a spoiled princess who expects everyone else to take care of you. The fact that you were too spacey to put your shoes on when you left your apartment doesn't inspire them to carry your trash to the dumpster. It makes them want to slap you.
Your girlfriend didn't cheat on you because she was using you. She did it because what you are calling a girlfriend is someone you met at the bar last week and fucked a couple times. I love sex as much as the next person but it takes more than take to make a relationship and what the hell are you doing claiming a relationship with someone you have only known a week?!?
You missing the bus is not due to some giant conspiracy. Nor is the cafe running out of pumpkin chai (Gotta say though that getting the last cup of it and then secretly sipping it while you bitch about it made it taste even better!!! Yeah, I've got my own damned flaws to work on…)
Perhaps a little introspection is in order here people! A few hours spent wondering how you might be contributing to the problem. Maybe learn some new skills. Tackle a flaw or two.
I have had it with these people. Tried talking to them about it. Let them know that I felt they were going overboard. Tried to get them to visit about something positive. Something they could do to make things better. Now I am done. I have a hard enough time being optimistic during the holidays and have no desire at all to hang with people who just wish to wallow in negativity without taking the initiative to do something about it. Who just want to be victims instead of in control of their own lives.
See ya bastards in January! Then, at least for a couple weeks, you will make resolutions and pretend like things are going to be different. At least until all the champagne wears off.
# posted by Phoenix : 10/28/2008 11:51:00 PM
