Thursday, March 20, 2008
a new friend?
I received a rather intriguing friend request this morning. From a woman I met in real life last week. The interaction did not go particularly well – and at one point I do believe I called her an idiot. Does have me mighty curious as to why she sought me out on here...
We met at one of the local BDSM events and the conversation turned to the topic of trust between partners in D/s relationships. She went off of some long spiel about how only males need to demonstrate their trustworthiness. In her mind, men should just automatically feel comfortable with and believe the women they meet (never even had the chance to ask her about same sex relationships!). Her argument hinged primarily on:
1) Men are larger than women so they can overpower us any time they like. Hello! Apparently she is blind and cannot see my hulking figure before her. Nor is she familiar with the concept of restraints and the fact that the man’s size is not going to be of much assistance once he is bound securely. She claims to have years of experience so these should not new concepts for her.
2) Men are able to do things to women that women are just, biologically, unable to do to men. She is apparently also unfamiliar with strap-ons, dildos, and vibrators. Poor thing! My pointing out to her that I have far more options (size, shape, and simple quantity) available to me than the average male does was an idea she was entirely unwilling (unable?) to grasp.
It was around this point that I finally dismissed her with an eyeroll as being a complete dumbass and unworthy of any more of my time. Now I have to decide if she has perhaps realized her folly or if she is just here to start some more arguments.
Female Supremacy my ass! It is not a person’s genitalia that makes them worthwhile.
Seriously? What the hell is going on with my community? I am starting to feel like I am being tested.
Perhaps I should start looking around for hidden cameras. "Smile! You are on Kinky Kandid Kamera!"
We met at one of the local BDSM events and the conversation turned to the topic of trust between partners in D/s relationships. She went off of some long spiel about how only males need to demonstrate their trustworthiness. In her mind, men should just automatically feel comfortable with and believe the women they meet (never even had the chance to ask her about same sex relationships!). Her argument hinged primarily on:
1) Men are larger than women so they can overpower us any time they like. Hello! Apparently she is blind and cannot see my hulking figure before her. Nor is she familiar with the concept of restraints and the fact that the man’s size is not going to be of much assistance once he is bound securely. She claims to have years of experience so these should not new concepts for her.
2) Men are able to do things to women that women are just, biologically, unable to do to men. She is apparently also unfamiliar with strap-ons, dildos, and vibrators. Poor thing! My pointing out to her that I have far more options (size, shape, and simple quantity) available to me than the average male does was an idea she was entirely unwilling (unable?) to grasp.
It was around this point that I finally dismissed her with an eyeroll as being a complete dumbass and unworthy of any more of my time. Now I have to decide if she has perhaps realized her folly or if she is just here to start some more arguments.
Female Supremacy my ass! It is not a person’s genitalia that makes them worthwhile.
Seriously? What the hell is going on with my community? I am starting to feel like I am being tested.
Perhaps I should start looking around for hidden cameras. "Smile! You are on Kinky Kandid Kamera!"
# posted by Phoenix : 3/20/2008 01:35:00 AM
